A lot of you commented on my post about my frustration trying to parent my adorable but incredibly feisty daughter.
You told me to let you know when I figured something out.
Well, I have.
Actually, my pediatrician has.
We’re trying it. I figured I’d share it with you too. Because I’m a giver. A giver, I tell you!
Of course you can feel free to ignore this. It’s just a humble suggestion.
What you do is you take a jar (or jars, if you have more than one kid). And every time your child does something good, like washing hands before eating without being told, or doing what you ask without arguing, or being kind, etc., you write “yes” on a slip of paper and put it in the jar.
If they do something not so good, like arguing, whining, not listening, smacking his sister, kicking her brother (not that I know any kids who would do anything like THAT), then you write “no” on a piece of paper and put it in the jar.
Then, when your child asks for something, like maybe a treat, or extra TV time, or a trip to the park or whatever, you simply reach your hand in the jar and select a piece of paper – and whatever it says? Is the answer to their request.
THEY control their chances of having a positive answer to what they want. Our pediatrician says they catch on pretty fast.
We’re just starting to implement this so I can’t tell you just yet how well it’s working. But it definitely stops arguments when I write “no.”
What do you guys think of this? Let me know if you try it!