We tried

by , posted on February 20th, 2012 in Just me, Parenting




Love is not enough.

It cannot heal all wounds, the ones so profound they change the very makeup of one’s being.

These are the ones you can’t see. They are buried like fault lines deep inside the earth. You don’t know when they will erupt or why, only that, eventually, they will.

These wounds? Come from being starved to death. Or beaten. Possibly both. They come from being used and then discarded like you don’t matter. They come when there is never a gentle touch.

That is Lucy, the dog we rescued a month ago. And why she is no longer in our home.

Thursday, as she slept on her dog bed, Sawyer, as he does almost every night, sat next to her and pet her as he watched TV.

And then.

She went after him. With absolutely no provocation. No warning. Just paws and teeth and one very scared boy.

This was not a mauling or anything close. I did not have to pull her off him. There was no blood. He was not bit nor did she grab ahold of him. His face was scratched in several places, most likely from her nails, and there was a large lump near his temple.

Make no mistake: it was terrifying and beyond unacceptable. This was a dog reacting to something – perhaps a dream? – that upset her enough to make her feel she had to protect herself. And Lucy knew she did something horribly wrong. She padded over a few minutes later and put her paws gently on the edge of the couch and looked at us, her head down. She slunk awhile later into the kitchen as I grabbed a treat to get her into her crate – where she spent the rest of the night and most of the next morning.

I used to judge. I wondered how anyone could ever return a rescue dog. When you adopt a dog, you make a commitment. For life. You do whatever it takes to fulfill your promise to it. Right?

We tried. We tried.

We hugged her and rubbed her behind her floppy ears and kissed the white stripe on her forehead. We gave her a soft, safe place to sleep and healthy food to eat. She could lie in the sunshine in the grass outside or curl up on the futon in David’s office or sit next to me so I could scratch her broad chest.

She had children who adored her and to whom she gave wet kisses. She went on walks where she could fill her nose with whatever scent she could inhale. She wagged her tail when Sage came running down the walkway of the school to the sidewalk to greet her and when she was hugged by Sage’s friends. She loved rides in the car and games of tug with her rope bone.

No one yelled at her. No one scared her. No one touched her with a heavy hand.

Slowly, she gained confidence.

But.

She snapped at Gable. Over food. Water. When he sniffed her as she slept.

He didn’t want to go outside if she was out there. She pushed him out of the way if I petted him.

She was a bully. And he was miserable.

Still, we wanted to make sure we did everything possible to help the situation.

A trainer came to our house to observe. He didn’t like what he saw. We sent her to him for a full day and an overnight so he could evaluate her.

“I worry for your older dog,” he said. “He’s clearly distressed. His ears are back and he looks upset. Her behavior will escalate. I think she will eventually hurt him.”

Gable is 11 1/2. I couldn’t have him live the rest of his years like that. And I absolutely couldn’t live with myself if Lucy went after Gable  - or, worse, hurt one of my kids if they happened to be in the way.

And so, with tears, we called the rescue. Lucy had to go back. Only there were no foster homes available. So we said we’d keep her for another week or two, and then she’d have to go.

We questioned ourselves. Maybe she and Gable could learn to work it out? Did we try hard enough? She’d had such a horrible life. She deserved to be happy, didn’t she?

And, we thought, she was so good with kids.

But that all changed in an instant. The attack on Sawyer served to cut my emotional ties to her. I no longer felt guilty for returning her. I drove her to a boarding place Friday morning and I didn’t let myself think about how they had to drag her away from our car and into the building where I dropped her off, how she’ll be living in a cage until a foster or an adopter is found for her.

When I learned Sunday that she was not doing well at the kennel, that she was shaking and scared and could barely stand up, I discovered that hardening my heart hurt almost as much as breaking it.

But all I can think of is my beautiful, brave son. Who understands he did nothing wrong. Who gets that I have his back and I will do anything to protect him, that no animal is more important to me than he is.

A pet is not the same as a child. It just isn’t. We took Lucy in and made her part of our family, but she was not an equal member. We opened our home to her. She did not uphold her part of the bargain.

She is a good dog in a lot of ways. A calm, sweet, loving animal. She will make the right owner a wonderful pet. But she has demons that we can’t know. And when you are a 70-pound pit bull, and there are little kids in the house, you don’t get a second chance.

My son is safe.

And that is all that matters.

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  1. Abigail Says:

    February 20th, 2012 at 5:14 am

    You definitely did the right thing. As heartbreaking as it is, protecting your kid is more important. I do hope she finds a loving family soon.
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    Cheryl Reply:

    Thank you so much. I also hope she finds the right home soon.

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  2. KiKi Says:

    February 20th, 2012 at 5:15 am

    Cheryl — this is so heartbreaking. I’m so sorry that you had to go through this, I can only imagine how difficult hardening your heart was. My thoughts are with you and your family.
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    Cheryl Reply:

    Thanks so much, Kiki! I really appreciate your kind words. And I’ve missed you – I hope you are well!

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  3. tracy@sellabitmum Says:

    February 20th, 2012 at 8:10 am

    Oh Cheryl. I’ve been thinking about you guys all weekend. Love you. Huge hugs coming your way. xoxo
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    Cheryl Reply:

    Thank you, my lovely friend xoxo

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  4. The Mommy Therapy Says:

    February 20th, 2012 at 8:58 am

    Oh wow. I am a huge dog person, and the idea of having to return a rescue dog sounds horrible, but you definitely did the right thing. If you don’t feel your children are safe, there is no way to keep the animal. No question.

    I loved the way you wrote about it, beautiful.

    Hopefully if another dog is meant to be, then it will be a loving, sweet, perfect fit situation.

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    Cheryl Reply:

    It was one of the hardest things I’ve done, but I know it was the right thing. We are considering getting a puppy, but we want to make sure it’s the right one. We don’t want to go through this again!

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  5. joann mannix Says:

    February 20th, 2012 at 9:31 am

    Big hugs to you, my darling friend. I said a prayer last night for your grieving heart, for your family and for your rescue pup.
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    Cheryl Reply:

    So appreciated, as was your email ear. xoxo

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  6. Jen Says:

    February 20th, 2012 at 11:02 am

    Oh honey, I am so sorry. I know how much you wanted this to work.
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    Cheryl Reply:

    Thank you, my sweet friend. xo

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  7. Sarah Says:

    February 20th, 2012 at 11:48 am

    Thank you for so openly sharing your experience and all of the raw bits that accompany it. I’m sorry for this loss for you and your family. As far as the judging others, I find that the older I get the more I realize I CONSTANTLY have to police myself on this one.

    I found you on your novel in progress blog. Raising a glass in solidarity. Well, it’s a mug…of coffee, but you know what I mean. You’ve inspired me to forge ahead on mine!
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    Cheryl Reply:

    Thank you so much. I actually find in some ways I’m less judgy than I used to be. Motherhood is quite humbling. :)

    SO glad you’re inspired. Forge ahead indeed!

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  8. joann Says:

    February 20th, 2012 at 12:21 pm

    I’m sorry Cheryl. SO so sorry.
    My son was bitten in the face by my grandparents dog, with no provocation. He didn’t break the skin thank goodness, but he had huge bruises over his face.

    I know how that feels to see your son attacked and it is the worst thing ever. It just can’t happen again. You did the right thing. It makes you sick, and it’s hard, but you did the right thing. I don’t like thinking that anyone would have to go through this. boo.
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    Cheryl Reply:

    So sorry for your boy! He must’ve been so scared! And yes, it cannot happen again. But I loved that dog, you know? Right up until this happened. :(

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  9. Sherri Says:

    February 20th, 2012 at 12:49 pm

    Oh Cheryl, I am so sorry for this. You did try, but your family and older dog have to come first. I would have done the same thing, with the same heavy heart.
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    Cheryl Reply:

    Thank you so much, Sherri. I just hope she gets adopted soon and it’s forever for her.

    xo

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  10. Kathleen Schmidt Says:

    February 20th, 2012 at 1:07 pm

    Ugh. I’m so sorry but totally understand. I would have done the same thing and felt the same way. Not easy by any account. xo

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    Cheryl Reply:

    Thanks, my friend! xo

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  11. Rachel {at} Mommy Needs a Vacation Says:

    February 20th, 2012 at 1:07 pm

    I am so sorry to hear this but you made the right decision….hands down.
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    Cheryl Reply:

    Thanks, Rachel. I wish doing the right thing could be a little easier, tho.. xo

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  12. Tracie Says:

    February 20th, 2012 at 1:11 pm

    That is such a hard thing – but you definitively made the right decision. No judgment here.
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    Cheryl Reply:

    Thanks, Tracie! Much appreciated!

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  13. Carolyn West Says:

    February 20th, 2012 at 1:12 pm

    My heart is breaking too. I feel for that poor dog who was obviously scared and/or abused at some point. But… nothing is more important that a child. I would have done the same thing. My kids come first and it is never worth the risk to their safety to keep a loose cannon in the home.
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    Cheryl Reply:

    She really is a good dog in a lot of ways, and she’s been through so much. But, yes, our kids come first.

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  14. Nancy C Says:

    February 20th, 2012 at 1:13 pm

    You always write so beautifully, and with such honesty.

    You protected your babies…and that’s exactly what had to be done.
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    Cheryl Reply:

    Thank you, my lovely friend. xoxo

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  15. DebbieLB Says:

    February 20th, 2012 at 1:19 pm

    I’m so sorry for you and your family. It does hurt when you try to do the right thing, and it just can’t work out. Dogs are one of my favorite animals and I will always have one. But when things are not safe for your children, you are right…your kids come first! Bless you for trying and do not beat yourself up over the outcome. Try again another time, if you can. Maybe after Gable is gone. But for now, hug Gable and your son Sawyer. Know that you did the right thing.
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    Cheryl Reply:

    Thank you. It has been a painful experience, but a learning one. We are looking into possibly getting a puppy. But we’ll take our time and make sure we get the right one.

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  16. Kristin @ What She Said Says:

    February 20th, 2012 at 1:23 pm

    Thank you for writing this. We also returned our rescue dog, a Bassett Hound, for the same reasons, only we’d had her for nearly two years at the time. Six months after we adopted her, she bit me and then, two weeks later, my husband. I was unhurt, but he required a trip to the emergency room. Both incidents were related to food aggression.

    Nevertheless, we kept her and tried to rehabilitate her. But she was a needy, clingy, disruptive dog – and there was always that undercurrent of aggression flowing through her. When I became pregnant, we worried about what would happen when the baby came. She caused my husband and me stress and put a strain on our marriage. And ultimately, we simply couldn’t take the chance that she would one day harm our child.

    With the help of a local shelter, we found her a good, loving home. Two years later, we are at peace with our decision. But it hurt. And oh, the guilt…
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    Cheryl Reply:

    We had the condensed version of your experience, it seems. She was definitely causing stress in the house because of my older dog, and I was always worried one of the kids would drop food and Lucy would fight the older dog over it. She also had shown some aggression to dogs out on walks, probably b/c she wanted to protect me. It was just a situation I saw getting worse, and ultimately, it did. I am so glad you found a great home for your dog and I’m hopeful Lucy will find one, too. And yes. The hurt and the guilt… it’s awful.

    Thank you for sharing your story with me.

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    Kelly Reply:

    I wanted to say that we are currently in the same situation and I came across this blog via internet search. The words your wrote resonate with me and we are trying to do what is best both for us and our dog.

    We have a sweet rescue dog that has severe food agression. To top it all off I have severe allergic reactions to this dog, and this dog alone. Something like that you cannot plan for and unfortunately medication does little to help the symptoms, especially the hives and rash/itching.

    While we expected open assistance and understanding from the rescue so far we have recieved accusations and blame. It has only made a very difficult decision even harder and I feel that we are being guilt tripped into keeping him despite the fact that it just isn’t right.

    We are also planning to have a baby soon and fear for the safety of our child should his severe agression not subside. We have been working with him but so far things have not gotten better and yesterday he attacked our other male dog with unrelenting fury. I had to break them up and got nipped in the process.

    Again I want to thank you for your thoughts. It is such a hard decision but for some reason this has never felt right to me and it isn’t right to fight for what isn’t working. :(

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  17. Jenni Chiu Says:

    February 20th, 2012 at 1:25 pm

    Oh what a difficult, heartbreaking decision to have to make.
    I am so sorry.
    Poor little Lucy does deserve a good life…
    But so do you and your family.
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    Cheryl Reply:

    Thank you so much, Jenni. It was absolutely difficult and heartbreaking..

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  18. julie gardner Says:

    February 20th, 2012 at 1:25 pm

    Lucy needs to be in a home with no children and no other dogs. That is the only safe solution.

    You opened your hearts and your home.
    But the ones who already live there need to be protected first.

    You did the right thing, Cheryl.
    No matter how much it hurts.

    Sending love to you, your sweet boy, and everyone else in the family.
    XO
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    Cheryl Reply:

    Thanks, my beautiful friend. I know it was the right thing, but damn, it hurts. She used to roll over for tummy rubs right before I put her in her crate for the night. It was so very sweet..

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  19. Shell Says:

    February 20th, 2012 at 1:26 pm

    What a difficult thing to have to do. But, your kids have to come first. You did the right thing. xo
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    Cheryl Reply:

    Thank you, Shell. I can’t imagine what Sawyer would think if we didn’t immediately remove her from our home. So important for kids to know we’ll protect them, no matter what.

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  20. elissapr Says:

    February 20th, 2012 at 1:28 pm

    So heartbreaking…but love how you articulated the difference between love for a pet and a child. You did all the right things…from beginning to end. Love to all…

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    Cheryl Reply:

    Aw, thanks, Elise. My kids will always come first. No matter how difficult something might be. xo

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    Cheryl Reply:

    Ack! Elissa! I meant Elissa! It’s been a looooong few days.. :)

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  21. Jennifer Says:

    February 20th, 2012 at 1:28 pm

    I’m so sorry, Cheryl. This must be a huge disappointment (and to imagine how scared you were when it happened–oh my goodness). It was really wonderful that you gave Lucy a chance. Now you know more about her and have to do what’s best for your family. Sending you a huge hug.
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    Cheryl Reply:

    Thanks! The family will always come first. I’m just so sad about all that happened.

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  22. Jessica Says:

    February 20th, 2012 at 1:42 pm

    Oh what a heartbreaking decision to have to make. But you are so right, the safety of your children is so much more important. Putting them first is a decision you will never regret.
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    Cheryl Reply:

    You are so right. I will never regret it. Still hurts, tho..

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  23. Stacey Says:

    February 20th, 2012 at 1:49 pm

    You said it all in your first line: Love is not enough. Love and kindness and the best intentions can’t always fix something so broken.
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    Cheryl Reply:

    If only it could, though, you know? If only it could.

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  24. Wendy Says:

    February 20th, 2012 at 2:15 pm

    Aw, this is heartbreaking. But I hear you and I’m definitely understanding. We have a stray dog we picked up off the streets in our home. We don’t know his history, he bit my husband, he’s nipped at our other dog. I’m worried. I strongly say to my daughter not to get in his face, give him his space, let him get comfortable. My first concern is my child – definitely. You did the right thing.

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    Cheryl Reply:

    I remember this dog, the little beagle-ish one? You might want to get him into some serious training. I tried to ignore some red flags at first, but wanting it to work and it actually working are two different things. It doesn’t mean that you didn’t do the right thing by trying to help this poor guy.

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  25. Cheryl's Mom Says:

    February 20th, 2012 at 2:36 pm

    Cheryl, I am so sorry. Family history seems to repeat itself. When your brother was just beginning to crawl about, Sparky, the dog we had adopted, began to growl at him. On the advice of our vet, we returned him to the local dog pound with the stipulation that he be placed only in a home without young children. It was a very difficult decision at the time, and soon after we adopted a very loving lab/shepherd mix puppy that stayed witih us for 14 years. Your children have priority, plus an older dog that also needs protection.

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    Cheryl Reply:

    Thanks, Mom. We are looking into getting a puppy, but we are taking our time. Licorice was the best dog ever.

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  26. Lisa Says:

    February 20th, 2012 at 2:43 pm

    Oh, I am so sorry. You did the right thing…dogs are not people…and your children do come first. I agree with the prior commentor who said that Lucy needs a child and older pet-free home. Hugs for you…

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    Cheryl Reply:

    Thank you so very much. Yes, she definitely needs to be in a home without young kids.

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  27. Trisha Says:

    February 20th, 2012 at 3:17 pm

    We had a similar situation with a rescue beagle. We just could not keep the dog, not because of aggression, but because of severe emotional issues she had, which were creating much strife in our home. We had to take her to a shelter and just hope someone else could take her on. The guilt was enormous and I felt like such a failure. I too had to harden my heart and just not think about it. You’re absolutely right, the hardening of the heart hurts almost as much as a breaking heart. That was several years ago and since then we have added a cat to our family who is turning out to be, as my son would say, “the proper pet for us.” Thanks for sharing your experience Cheryl. I know many people will benefit from it.

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    Cheryl Reply:

    Thank you so much, Trisha. I know the rescue organization is doing their best to find her an appropriate home, so that gives me some solace. But I still am sad for us and sad for her. Definitely trying not to think about it!

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  28. Alexandra Says:

    February 20th, 2012 at 3:55 pm

    I know you know this, but you did what had to be done.

    I’m so grateful there are no injuries to report, aside from the broken heart for a dog that bites the hand that feeds it.

    So very sorry, but you did what had to be done.

    A heart rendering post, Cheryl.
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    Cheryl Reply:

    Thank you so much, Alexandra, for stopping by and leaving your kind words. It is much appreciated. xoxo

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  29. beautiful messy life Says:

    February 20th, 2012 at 4:13 pm

    so sorry for your sad experience! it makes me cry but i would absolutely have done the same thing
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    Cheryl Reply:

    I have definitely shed a few tears of my own, but in the end, I know we did the right thing.

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  30. Missy | Literal Mom Says:

    February 20th, 2012 at 4:24 pm

    You definitely did the right thing, but that doesn’t make it any fun, certainly.

    No question though, when you can’t trust a dog with your children, it just can’t stay.

    I’m sorry for the decision you had to make, even though I know it was the right one.
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    Cheryl Reply:

    I realize I’ve taken for granted how good my other two dogs are, without an aggressive bone in their bodies (one of them passed away right before New Year’s). We need a dog without baggage, because you’re right, I have to be able to trust it around my kids.

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  31. Jessica Anne Says:

    February 20th, 2012 at 4:49 pm

    So sorry you had to go through that. As a vet, I totally understand and it’s good you recognized she wasn’t right for you environment. A lot of people feel they shouldn’t return them and something bad happens. While I strongly believe Pitts are great dogs and pets, some are not, and some are not right for everyone. Also, there’s the rescue group thing, which is an out of control system run by fanatical animal lovers. But that’s another issue.

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    Cheryl Reply:

    Did I not know you were a vet?? I also think pits are great dogs, but like every breed, not all of them are. We are strong believers in rescuing a dog, and for our next one, we’re going to go with a puppy and take our time picking the right one for our family.

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  32. My Inner Chick Says:

    February 20th, 2012 at 5:58 pm

    —Heartbreaking.

    So very sorry this did not work out, but you did the right thing.

    It’s hard to believe that ( sometimes ) love cannot absorb thru the scars that are already there.

    Xxx Kisses
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    Cheryl Reply:

    Maybe with time and patience…but it wasn’t a chance we could take with three little kids. She is a beautiful, sweet dog. Someone else will fall in love with her.

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  33. Tiffany Says:

    February 21st, 2012 at 10:20 am

    We had to do this very same thing for this very same reason. I bawled like a baby and felt awful. Hang in there.
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  34. John Says:

    February 21st, 2012 at 11:31 am

    My heart brakes for you, reading this. I mean, you did the right thing – the only thing you could do.

    But, still, that’s rough.

    Don’t take on the guilt of the original owners – the ones who abused & neglected the dog to the point where the dog could not function in a family. You tried – and, something tells me that, some day, you’ll try again . . . but, at the end of the day, the safety of your family is paramount.
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  35. Jen Has A Pen Says:

    February 22nd, 2012 at 3:34 pm

    What a heartbreaking story. I can’t imagine how conflicted you felt- even though I completely understand that the safety of your children is paramount. It’s awful how the scares of abuse can bubble to the surface even years later. It’s true with people too, I think. I’m sorry your family had to go through this. You most definitely did the right thing.

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  36. karen somethingorother Says:

    February 24th, 2012 at 2:54 pm

    Wow. That IS a heartbreaking ordeal. I wonder if anything could be done to help her become a better adjusted dog??? I wonder what ‘the dog whisperer’ would do??? Thank god your kids weren’t hurt!!!!
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  37. Mama Kat Says:

    February 28th, 2012 at 2:12 am

    We fostered four different dogs before we ended up with the puppy we adopted. What I learned is that a rescue dog will be a great choice for us someday when my kids are teens, but right now…without really knowing the history of the dog…I can’t adopt one with these small kids at home. Two of the dogs bit our kids (blogged all about it) and it just wasn’t a risk I could take again. We adopted a small puppy and could not be happier. This way we can really know the dog and he’s young enough to put up with our kids in a playful way…it’s like having a fourth toddler in the house. You did the right thing! I know it’s hard!
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  38. Mrs. Mal Says:

    May 24th, 2013 at 11:00 am

    My husband and I have a very similar story, having just put our rescue pup on the transport yesterday morning. We adopted him last August and in many ways, he was a sweet, loving, happy boy, but he was not without issues. His fear aggression and overall anxiety were so concerning that we enlisted the help of a world class team of animal behaviorists. While we saw improvement in his anxiety, his fear aggression began to escalate. He charged at my husband, teeth bared, growling, and a few weeks later at my mother-in-law, whom he sees daily. The straw that broke the camel’s back was last weekend when he charged at me, barking and teeth bared, then bit me on my leg. We knew that no amount of love would help his issues or help him be comfortable in our home, and we knew we’d never be able to have kids around him. Fortunately we were able to find a home for him quickly, and while we know we did the right thing for our family and for him, it still hurts. Thank you for sharing your story. I found this article while scouring the internet for similar experiences, and it has helped me feel just a little better.

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    Cheryl Reply:

    It’s a very tough thing to do. There is a lot of guilt put upon us when, at the end of the day, you choose the safety of your family over a dog. It’s not like these dogs are being let go on some street to fend for themselves, or dropped off at a kill shelter.

    There is a right home for every family. We were told this dog had been returned before because she was afraid of going up stairs. I wonder if that was actually the truth.

    Anyway. I’m glad your dog has found a great new home, and that you don’t feel so alone in your choice.

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  39. Susan Says:

    September 8th, 2013 at 11:24 pm

    We just returned our rescue after 3 months and I am heartbroken. If that isn’t bad enough the rescue is bashing me publically about it on social media and accused us of abusing her. She was great for the first few weeks and then got very possessive…started growling and went after my mother, niece and finally lunged at my husband twice. She also showed signs of dominant aggression toward my older dog and cat. When I asked the rescue for advice they said we did something to make her this way. We did nothing but love her and give her a great home. I have a 6 year old who she was very protective of however I just couldn’t risk it. I always swore I would adopt however now that the rescue has made me feel like a criminal I will go to a breeder. I pray she finds a loving home. I miss her terribly.

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