Mommypants Moment: Who else would know?

by , posted on November 28th, 2010 in Mommypants Moment




Today’s guest poster, Alexandra from Good Day, Regular People, is probably well-known to many of you. That’s because Alexandra, aka The Empress, is one of the most supportive women in this vast blogosphere. She always knows just what to say to lift the spirits of a tired, worn-out mommy, to applaud an accomplishment, to share a laugh. She has an encouraging word for everyone, and her nurturing spirit shines through in her own blog – where she even features posts from her son, Baby E. Can’t tell you how thrilled I am she’s here!

I was so excited when Cheryl asked me to participate in her lovely “Mommypants” series. It’s been interesting, intriguing, and inspirational to read how differently “Mommypants” are for all of us. The idea for my contribution here, among all the loveliness already present, came to me in a dream. No Lie. (Some days I just don’t know who the heck I am).

My Mommypants

I never would have picked them

For me, these pants would not have been my choice

I had always been the one

with the poise

The grace, the charm, and the smile

I was the one you’d want to stop and speak to for awhile

I had been the one who always dressed so well

In fashion, in manner, a gift

with which I knew how to cast a spell

These pants I’d been given

I fought so hard not to own

They weren’t for me

They didn’t fit me

And if the truth were to be told

“They’re not what I want,” would be

the words I would disclose

They’re stiff

They’re cumbersome

There are too many pockets

They’re not pretty

They’re not special

I look like just one of many

With these pants I’d been given

I felt lost in the crowd

The me who was me

would never again be found

These pants I”d been given

were mine till eternity

That much I knew

They were sent to fit only me

And as my days with these pants wore on

I blessedly came to see

That it was my body

And only my body

that could fill these pants so completely

For who else would know

where the pockets are for each child

And who else would know

what would need to be kept inside?

I am the one who knows what and where

the things for these children need to be

The pocket to the right holds what we need when

there are peanuts

The pocket to the back holds the inhaler

for the colder climates

And the special pocket in the back?

Is only for the littlest

Whose fingers are never disappointed

when they dip in with hopes of

finding his favorite chocolates

The mommy of these pants cannot

be unprepared

She must own these pants

And wear them

And never be caught unaware

The mommy of these pants

wears them like no other

They fit her, and hold her,

and what she thought of before as beauty?

Pffffffft….to see her today,

you just cannot compare

These pants fit her

and though they would not have been her choice

She now sees how these pants hung, waiting

for her,

made

for only her

and the children for which she was meant.

The pants for the mother of the children

with the allergy to peanut

with the asthma from the colder climates

The pants for only her.

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113 Responses to “Mommypants Moment: Who else would know?”

  1. Ratz Says:

    November 28th, 2010 at 5:03 am

    Bravo Bravo Bravo. I loved this. Alexandra, you are amazing. :-)

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    Alexandra Reply:

    Dear sweet lady: thank you so very much for this compliment. The words in my head flowed much more sweetly than these on the page. I meant to say I didn’t want the pants that came with peanut allergy and asthma and sick children, but, still, I am happy now that these are my children.

    Thanks for visiting, you are so loyal.
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  2. cristina Says:

    November 28th, 2010 at 7:56 am

    aw.. this was so fun to read and so honest. love it!

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    Alexandra Reply:

    Dear C:

    I think you caught it: it is honest. I didn’t want to be the mommy of children with the scary peanut allergy, I didn’t want to wear those pants. But, I have to, and I’ve learned how to not live in terror…took a long time, but now, I love this role…..
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  3. themombshell Says:

    November 28th, 2010 at 10:36 am

    This is beautiful. There are a million things I could say about the Empress, all of them lovely and glowy, but supportive is exactly the word. Exactly. Especially during those times where you are hacking away at your mommy pants with a butter knife to be rid of them, only to read a comment left by her. She has coaxed that butter knife out of my hand more than she will ever know.
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    Alexandra Reply:

    Oh, my mombshell: you are a prize. Thanks for these words, b/c it’s my funny ladies that keep my scary days away (the pocketdays when I need to pull out the Epi pen or the inhaler). I count on my funny ladies…so very much.
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  4. Yuliya Says:

    November 28th, 2010 at 11:18 am

    The Empress is a special lady indeed, and this piece of wisdom is no exception.
    The only thing I wonder is if all this fits in the pants, what does she keep in the MommyPurse?
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    Alexandra Reply:

    She Suggests: my fave upside down lady. Yes, these pants with the food allergy and asthma pocket are mine. Be glad they fit only me: some of these days are just not so much fun.
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  5. Katie Says:

    November 28th, 2010 at 11:50 am

    ah the Empress. she never ever disappoints with her lovely words. she is the epitome of saying a ton with just a few words. and? i can relate to thinking I would never EVER own a pair of “mommypants”.
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    Alexandra Reply:

    Thanks, Katie: I know you know what I mean, about the weight that the pockets with food allergy and asthma and all the stress and anxiety of not having “typical” brings.

    It’s not a comfortable pair of pants, but the mommy of these children has to wear them.
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  6. Rudri Says:

    November 28th, 2010 at 1:59 pm

    So true and raw. Thanks for sharing your truth.
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    Alexandra Reply:

    Thanks, Rudri. It is the truth, which is not pretty. I did not want to be the mom of children with the peanut allergy. I did not.

    But, I am, and that’s where I had to pull on my MommPants and be the mom they needed.

    Thank you.
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  7. Renee Says:

    November 28th, 2010 at 5:12 pm

    Beautiful words. Those mommypants suit you well!
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    Alexandra Reply:

    Thank you, Renee, that’s what people say: on how I handle the peanut allergy and the asthma: I hope my children feel the same way, too.
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  8. Kimberly Says:

    November 28th, 2010 at 5:13 pm

    Empress, you took my breath away. I love that Mommy pants are different, yet the women who wear them share the same feelings…
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    Alexandra Reply:

    Sweet Kimberly: thank you. It is hard, at times, to have to deal with peanut allergy and asthma, but you just have to pull on the Big MommyPants, and do it…ala Nike.

    xo loveyou, girl.
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  9. Natalie Says:

    November 28th, 2010 at 6:40 pm

    I’m a huge fan of The Empress, and I am grateful to call her a friend as well. The word “supportive” is the absolute best word you could use to describe her…it’s perfect!

    Empress, this was beautifully written. And while mommy pants might not be the hippest or coolest or best fitting ones around, I wouldn’t trade them in for anything :)
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    Alexandra Reply:

    You’re right, Natalie: these are the pants we’re given. Typical or not typical pants, we have to do it. We pull on the Big MommyPants and just wear them. Because we are the ones they were made for. Like the circumstances or not: like mine with peanut allergy and asthma: we just do it.
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  10. Jen Says:

    November 28th, 2010 at 10:16 pm

    This was awesome.
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    Alexandra Reply:

    Jen: your comment is awesome.

    Thank you
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  11. Lori @ In Pursuit of Martha Points Says:

    November 29th, 2010 at 12:05 am

    Oh so fantastic.

    Such a perfect painting of words.

    Giving an image that connected, overlong sentences never could.
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    Alexandra Reply:

    Thank you, Lori: it’s not always to say what I want to say, what I hear in my head. I wanted to say that I don’t like being the mom of peanut allergy and asthma, but it doesn’t stop me from being the best I can.
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  12. MommaKiss Says:

    November 29th, 2010 at 3:25 am

    Oh, The Empress.

    So lovely, you are. Truly beautiful.
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    Alexandra Reply:

    Thanks, hon: not easy being the mom of the dreaded peanut allergy, but we do what we have to do. Like it or not, we have to pull up those MommyPants and be the mom we have to be.
    xo
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  13. Alexandra Says:

    November 29th, 2010 at 11:10 am

    Cheryl, to say I’m so honored and flattered that I was asked to contribute to your Mommypants Moments would be an understatement.

    Thank you, Cheryl, for making this topic a “real” one. Being a mother isn’t always glowing, hit the floor running, for many of us.

    For me, I remember thinking, “why me? Why do I have to have the peanut allergy? The asthma? Why? It’s hard enough as it is.”

    But, the funny funny thing is…I feel made for these pants now.

    Thank you, Cheryl, for the space to say that acceptance was slow for me, in the Mommypants Dept.

    Thank you
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    Cheryl Reply:

    Thank YOU, Empress. I, too, have the pocket for the epi-pen. I, too, wish my child didn’t have a life-threatening nut allergy. But all I think is it could be so much worse. SO MUCH. And I’m thankful that he’s happy and healthy and can run around and laugh and jump and whine and all the things I know so many mothers wish their child could do..

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  14. tulpen Says:

    November 29th, 2010 at 11:43 am

    Nicely done Empress.

    I wouldn’t trade my Mommy Pants for skinny jeans ever… not that my arse would fit in those jeans ever…
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    Alexandra Reply:

    Thank you, Tulpen..I know you know what I mean: we have to do what we have to do.

    You know my story.

    Love you, girl.
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  15. Nina Badzin Says:

    November 29th, 2010 at 12:21 pm

    Fantastic, Alexandra!!!!
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    Alexandra Reply:

    Nina: thank you. It’s been so nice getting to know you, you’re going to like blogging, you really will.. so glad you started a blog and can now join us!
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  16. Nichole Says:

    November 29th, 2010 at 12:25 pm

    Though you now wear these amazing pants now, the poise, grace, charm, and smile still shine through.

    This is truly lovely, Empress.

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    Alexandra Reply:

    Thank you, Nichole (love that you have it with an H) it is hard for me, but I somehow have accepted the role of having the peanut allergy and the asthma.

    Don’t know how, but I somehow have.

    Nothing short of miraculous..I should post on that struggle…the acceptance.
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  17. Lynn Says:

    November 29th, 2010 at 12:32 pm

    Awesome job Empress! My mommypants are definitely battle-stained, and you don’t even want to know what’s in my pockets! But they are the most comfortable thing that I own now…
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    Alexandra Reply:

    You know what I’m talking about , girl…when you get the pants that have the extra wear and tear.

    You so know…
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  18. Cluttered Brain Says:

    November 29th, 2010 at 1:03 pm

    LOL…
    Yes mommypants have to have lots of pockets for little hands.
    Never under prepare when you go out…
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    Alexandra Reply:

    So true.

    I need to be extra prepared and can never be unaware: b/c of the peanut allergy, I must always have the Epi pen the benadryl, and the inhaler.

    and the cellphone.

    always.
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  19. brian miller Says:

    November 29th, 2010 at 1:14 pm

    smiles. while i do not wear mommy pants (go figure) i can totally understand…and written very wonderfully empress…
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    Alexandra Reply:

    Thank you, Brian…you do understand, it’s what needs to be done.
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  20. joann mannix Says:

    November 29th, 2010 at 1:34 pm

    Beautiful Empress. Your mommypants sound like the most elegant, lovely ball gown. You did a great job for Cheryl.
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    Alexandra Reply:

    Oh, Joann: I could have gone on and on about the difficulty of making the pants of peanut allergy and asthma fit. Who wants pants like that?

    I didn’t. I wanted the pants that needed no extra pockets. as in, no extra situations.

    But, now, I love these guys that make these extra pockets necessary.
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  21. Dana @ Bungalow'56 Says:

    November 29th, 2010 at 1:50 pm

    Ah Empress,
    I love your inner poet.
    I love your pants.
    I love what you put in your pocket.
    I love that you are wearing them so well.
    Dana

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    Alexandra Reply:

    Thank you, Dana…we have spoken about this. It is very difficult to deal with in the beginning: when you find out about the potential with the peanut allergy.

    You just have to live on, and not think of the “what if”.

    You just can’t go there.
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    Alexandra Reply:

    Mrs Mayhem..ding!ding!

    You win the prize…yes, the pockets for special needs.

    Oh, yes, you win the prize…
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    Mrs.Mayhem Reply:

    ooh, a prize! how exciting!
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  22. Mrs.Mayhem Says:

    November 29th, 2010 at 1:51 pm

    Alexandra, I love that you included visuals for the equipment necessary for caring for children — I never imagined that my own mommypants would include pockets for hearing aids or learning disabilities.

    Even if our mommypants aren’t the most attractive item of clothing… even when raising children requires more fortitude than we ever imagined… the overwhelming love a mother feels makes it all worth it.
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    Alexandra Reply:

    Mrs Mayhem: see above. your comment is OVER there..sorry xo
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  23. Pamela Says:

    November 29th, 2010 at 2:00 pm

    Oh Empress, you’ve written about this so eloquently that if I weren’t already wearing them, you’d totally convince me to put on a pair of Mommy pants:)

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    Alexandra Reply:

    Thank you, Pamela: the burden of the peanut allergy and asthma. I wanted pants that were easy to wear, and instead, I got cargo pants with all their cargo pockets for the epi pen, the inhaler, the benadryl.

    I now accept it, but I did not want those pants at first, let me tell you.
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  24. Alexandra the Tsaritsa Says:

    November 29th, 2010 at 2:01 pm

    From one Alexandra to the next, you’re awesome! :) Lovely poem.
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    Alexandra Reply:

    Thank you, Alexandra..how fun to type that name.. heehee
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  25. Cheryl Says:

    November 29th, 2010 at 2:06 pm

    Alexandra, you wrote this poetically and gritty.

    Those of us without children; those of us who are tweeners; we have our own special pants for caring for our older adults and our younger nieces and nephews. Our pants are somewhat different but just as well-fitting.
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    Alexandra Reply:

    Thank you, Cheryl: you always speak the truth, with such tact. Thank you
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  26. Anne Says:

    November 29th, 2010 at 2:28 pm

    I loved this. While being a mom does sometimes make us feel “just part of the crowd” we do all wear our mommypants in our own way, our pockets filled with things for our special children (for me, silly bandz – they seem to grow in my pockets!) Really lovely poem!
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    Alexandra Reply:

    Thank you, Anne: yes, the pants we’ve been given. Now, I love them..but the peanut allergy and severe asthma: it was awhile before I finally realized I had to live in them, and learned to love my role of always being prepared with my epipen and benadryl.
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  27. annabelle Says:

    November 29th, 2010 at 2:35 pm

    Loved this.

    The Empress is so very gracious, kind and talented.

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    Alexandra Reply:

    Thank you, Annabelle: I think you are talented, also. I enjoy the sincerity and truthfulness with which you blog, also.

    You are very down to earth. I like that.
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  28. Susie @newdaynewlesson Says:

    November 29th, 2010 at 5:14 pm

    Lovely poem. I got here from your blog Alexandra.

    I was intrigued by the name of this blog lol, until i realized it must be written by an American and thus was not talking about underwear. (don’t worry, am still intrigued. Even more so since i can now remove the image of big granny underwear from my mind)

    It appears i have been hanging around with too many Brits when i assume pants means underwear and not pants as in pants.

    LOL.

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    Alexandra Reply:

    Aww. thank you.

    Yes, MommyPants: when we have to just pull up our bib mommypants and wear them, like it or not.

    We just have to.
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  29. KLZ Says:

    November 29th, 2010 at 5:22 pm

    There are too many pockets <– Indeed. This is so true I laughed out loud as soon as I saw it.

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    Alexandra Reply:

    The pockets that help us take care of our kids. The pants with the pockets for the epi pen and the benadryl and the inhaler.

    We just have to wear them..but it took me a long time to realize to be happy in them.

    That’s another story.
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  30. Lady Jennie Says:

    November 29th, 2010 at 5:24 pm

    The pants that were given to me are four sizes bigger than I would like them to be.

    (but seriously I didn’t know you didn’t always want to be a mom. I could never have guessed, considering how perfectly you fit the role. (This is a big compliment).

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    Alexandra Reply:

    Oh, No!

    I have ALWAYS wanted to have children. Every since I can remember. Which is always.

    I have always dreamt of children.

    I finally had my first child at 35, but he came with so many health issues. I finally had my baby,f inally: and we were in and out of the ER with asthma that first year.

    I loved the MommyPants, but I didn’t like the ones I had been given: I loved my baby so much, I finally had my dream come true, and I almost lost him so many times due to asthma.

    It’s that part of the MommyPants I didn’t like:I wanted the easy ones every one else got to wear.

    But, now, years in to it, I see, how good I am in that role of the MommyPants I have been given.
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    Lady Jennie Reply:

    Oh! I understand so much better. What a heartbreaking thing to face. I’m so glad everything “worked out” (which seems like such a lame thing to say, but you know what I mean).

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  31. Mommylebron Says:

    November 29th, 2010 at 6:49 pm

    This was lovely, E! I agree with you whole heartily. I would not have chosen to deal with the special needs of my daughter, but I can’t imagine anyone else being able to handle her like me!
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    Alexandra Reply:

    Sent you an email, lovely lady.. thank you
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  32. Alexandra Says:

    November 29th, 2010 at 6:58 pm

    Mommylebron:

    You get it.

    You get it.

    That makes me teary eyes…you get it.

    Thank you.
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  33. The Flying Chalupa Says:

    November 29th, 2010 at 7:05 pm

    Love the form of this post – poetic, striking, honest. And somehow, Alexandra, I bet your MommyPants are incredibly stylish. But what do you wash them with to get them to hold up so well? It’s love, I just know it.

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    Alexandra Reply:

    Oh, Chalupa, what do you want from me?

    A phone call?

    I’m on it.

    Love you, girl.
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  34. Average Girl Says:

    November 29th, 2010 at 7:39 pm

    Ah…the Empress. Lovely words. Lovely person.

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    Alexandra Reply:

    Average Girl.

    Who is anything but Average.

    That’s alright…my claim to fame is getting you hooked on twitter.

    Bwaahahhahhahahaha!
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  35. Stacy Says:

    November 29th, 2010 at 8:24 pm

    Psst…those mommy pants make your ass look fabulous :)

    Empress, you have such a way with words! I enjoy every post of yours and you make me reflect on how blessed I am to be a mother in so many ways…
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    Alexandra Reply:

    Very sweet to say, Stacy.

    We have to remember how we have exactly what we dreamed of, on those very hard days,when it’s easy to forget.
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  36. Leesa Says:

    November 29th, 2010 at 9:09 pm

    As usual Empress you blow me away. My own mother refused to wear her pants, just got angry instead and I ended up in an orphanage. When my son was first diagnosed with acute asthma I (to a point)got why she ran from her fears because, at times I wanted to run run run. Though now you’d have to operate to remove my mommy pants. Your post made me think though on how hard it was for her and any mother of that generation to say ‘I hate this’ because women just didn’t say such things. They HAD to be happy.
    As usual thank-you for your posts

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    Alexandra Reply:

    Leesa, thank you. I am enjoying getting to know you, and how unique you are in the blogosphere.

    That a huge thing I love about blogging, all the types of people I’ve met.

    It’s wonderful.

    Thank you for stopping over, truly.
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  37. gigi Says:

    November 29th, 2010 at 9:20 pm

    I say this nearly every time you post these days, but this is one of your best posts ever.

    Every pair of mommypants is perfectly tailored for the woman for whom they are designed. If only real pants fit as well :)
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    Alexandra Reply:

    Geeg:

    thank you. You are so right. Our kids fit us, they really do. We’re just too close to it to see it sometimes.
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  38. Aging Mommy Says:

    November 29th, 2010 at 9:52 pm

    Alexandra I really liked this, beautifully written. Every pair of Mommy pants is uniquely crafted for that special Mommy, I agree.
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    Alexandra Reply:

    Thank you, Aging Mommy.

    I know you and I have both found our way, to being the mother we had always longed to be.
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  39. Melissa (Confessions of a Dr.Mom) Says:

    November 30th, 2010 at 5:26 am

    Beautiful post Alexandra. I love this. Yes our Mommy Pants are made just for us…just for the children that call us Mom. No pair is the same. Just lovely.
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    Alexandra Reply:

    Thank you, Melissa, thank you so much.
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  40. R.M.Gilbert Says:

    November 30th, 2010 at 7:41 am

    Alexandra, you say what so many feel. I too, remember a the time I put mine on. As a young mother, finishing school, I was frightened when my daughter (still a small baby at the time) came down sick…very sick. She had RSV. I was told I needed to keep her home for 2 weeks. I didn’t have anyone who could help take care of her, so I left school for those two weeks and came very close to not graduating at all. In the end, I was up with her for 4 days straight. (Thankfully on the 4th day my own mother was able to help, and finally I rested.) After a week and a half my daughter was in the clear, but I tell you it was definitely time for me to wear my mom pants.
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    Alexandra Reply:

    This is exactly what I mean.

    Exactly.
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  41. Joey @ Big Teeth & Clouds Says:

    November 30th, 2010 at 10:26 am

    You must be careful putting chocolates in your pants. That’s what I thought of – is that a mommy moment or what?
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    Alexandra Reply:

    Always the smartypants, Joey (winkwink)

    You wear your mommypants so very well, You know that, right?
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  42. Erin Says:

    November 30th, 2010 at 10:54 am

    Absolutely BEAUTIFUL – STUNNING – so unabashedly honest and raw – so tender and real – I am in tears!

    I too would never have chosen these pants but I am so proud to wear them now…
    this was just beautiful – I loved every word!!! thank you – I sooooo needed this today!!

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    Alexandra Reply:

    Erin, we are so much alike, so very much.

    I love knowing you.
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  43. Cecilia Says:

    November 30th, 2010 at 2:47 pm

    Just beautiful, Alexandra. Those mommypants (I keep visualizing jeans) become our softest, most beautiful, most comfortable, and best fitted pants over time, and they last forever! xo

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    Alexandra Reply:

    Thank you, my dearest dearest Cecilia…
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  44. Liz @ Peace, Love & Guacamole Says:

    November 30th, 2010 at 4:38 pm

    Beautiful and so touching, Alexandra. And thank you for introducing me to Mommypants…I’m clicking the feed button right now!
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    Alexandra Reply:

    What a compliment, coming from you Liz.

    You feed me, when I need it, with your Sunday Grace.

    You are touching and beautiful with that.

    Thank you
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  45. Kristy Says:

    November 30th, 2010 at 4:48 pm

    Oh, my what a wonderfully crafted poem! Love it! My mommypants moment? There have been many. I seem to re-learn this moment many times. When we took my son home from the hospital and there was no nurse to help anymore with the crying. When I had my first day alone on maternity leave – no husband, no mother – and my child cried in my arms for hours and I could not help him. When my husband was out of town for the first time and my son had a stomach bug and threw up repeatedly over and over on me and everything. Eventually, I was just walking around in a bra because I couldn’t get a new shirt on before it happened again!

    http://www.pampersandpinot.com

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    Alexandra Reply:

    Kristy, you nailed it.
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  46. Motpg Says:

    November 30th, 2010 at 4:48 pm

    Beautifully True Alexandra! I love the “pockets” reference.
    I was very young when I put on those pants. I wasn’t sure how they would suit me but they are still my favorite pair : )
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    Alexandra Reply:

    Oh, MOTPG, you do it so very well.
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  47. K A B L O O E Y Says:

    November 30th, 2010 at 10:09 pm

    Well, I can’t say putting on these mommypants was a shock because of my former vivacity, ’cause, um, you’ve got to have it to lose it, but otherwise, I certainly relate. These pants have proven stretchy enough to start out in the shape of what I thought being a mom would be and end up being a far, far different cut. They had to reform to the truth of what is instead of what I thought would be. And they’re far more prefect for the transformation.

    Except for the camel toe.
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  48. K A B L O O E Y Says:

    November 30th, 2010 at 10:11 pm

    Oh, jesus. Save me from typos. And redundancy. That’s just “prefect;” I killed the joke, too.
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    Alexandra Reply:

    This is what makes you KABLOOEY!
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  49. Alisha Says:

    November 30th, 2010 at 10:53 pm

    I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again, I love you. You’re wonderful. Why? Because you are you and you are happy to be you, even if you weren’t able to pick and choose every part of you. You’re fab and this is just more icing on the fab cake.
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    Alexandra Reply:

    Sweet A: today, I don’t feel it so much. I’ll email you.

    How is work????
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  50. Nancy C Says:

    November 30th, 2010 at 11:00 pm

    There is nothing more beautiful than a woman who knows and loves herself. As you do.
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    Alexandra Reply:

    Ah, sigh, actually: I think I’m too hard on myself. I want to do everything perfectly right and I think everyone does it better than me.

    Can you call me? xo
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  51. Kelly Says:

    November 30th, 2010 at 11:44 pm

    Every time I read a post you have written, I think it can’t get better, but it does!!

    You are a beautiful mom, mommypants and all. :)
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    Alexandra Reply:

    Kelly, you’re always so good to me.

    I’ve got to figure this out…you always knock me for a loop with your kindness and love.

    Thank you.
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  52. Sue Says:

    December 1st, 2010 at 12:22 am

    So well-crafted. And what a beautiful intro. to have written about you. This post was a joy to read from beginning to end.
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    Alexandra Reply:

    Thank you, Sue, on my way to meet you.
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  53. The Mayor! Says:

    December 1st, 2010 at 1:07 am

    Two of my favourite ladies in one spot…pure awesomeness! As always my dear Empress, you touch the hearts of all who have the pleasure to read you’re stirring words! <3
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    Alexandra Reply:

    Oh, my wonderful Mayor:

    we’ve spoken before, and I know you get what I’m saying. The heartbreak of it all, but the joys on the other side.

    Mommypants, you have to be a big girl to wear them right.
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    Alexandra Reply:

    Thank you, Sue, your comment just warmed my heart.

    I’m on my way to meet you.

    And, thank you, again, your words mean so much.
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  54. Heidi Says:

    December 1st, 2010 at 1:02 pm

    I do love your writing Empress! Your pants and you are beautiful.
    Cheryl is right, you always know how to make people feel good about themselves and lift their spirits.

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  55. Mrs. Jen B Says:

    December 1st, 2010 at 1:57 pm

    Wise, warm and lovely – just like the author! I hope that when my time comes to put on a pair of mommypants, I can wear them so well.

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  56. Sherri Says:

    December 1st, 2010 at 9:37 pm

    Oh, this had to come in a dream…it’s perfect, Empress. We all wear the pants and you wear yours like no other mother can. I love how the words in this piece just flow…..
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  57. Charlotte Says:

    December 2nd, 2010 at 12:57 pm

    LOVE this. Once again Alexandra you have delivered a wonderful post (how do you do it all??!! Seriously, one of these days, I’m going to have to ask you where you get that awesome bag of tricks).

    Like so many things we often come across in life, we learn to love the things we once took for granted. And things that may not appear to be much to a casual observer carry so much deeper meaning for us because we know all the kinks, nuances… and hidden pockets.
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  58. chickens consigliere Says:

    December 6th, 2010 at 3:46 pm

    Love this analogy. So great.
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